Showing posts with label book. Show all posts
Showing posts with label book. Show all posts

Monday, September 26, 2011

A Father's Wisdom - Teach Her Who God Is


I am currently in the middle of Dr. Meg Meeker's EXCELLENT book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know. I can't say this strongly enough, but if you have daughters, this book is an absolute MUST read! So many things I thought I knew and so many things I had no idea! - just read it! :^)


Also (not by any type of coincidence) I am reading a couple books on evolution. Because both of these topics were going through my head at the same time, a passage from Dr. Meeker's book stood out at me and I wanted to share it. Enjoy!


In Christ,
Jason Jasper


A Father's Wisdom
(from chapter 8: Teach Her Who God Is)


Can you remember sitting on the edge of your three-year-old daughter's bed, watching her bundled in the peace of sleep? You gently leaned over her to kiss her forehead and pulled the blankets around her shoulders. No father can adequately articulate the experience of watching his sleeping child-it must be lived. Now, imagine you are walking out of her room. Could you turn around and look at her and believe that the sum of her existence rests in a mass of cells?


Certainly not. But this is exactly how a rank secularist is obliged to view his daughter. She is nothing more than a genetic product of his and her mother's DNA. The puffing of air through her tiny chest keeps her alive. Your time with her is precious, meaningful, but purely a biological phenomenon. Her thoughts and feelings can be traced to neuronal firing in her brain. One day you will die and she will die and that will be that. Life began through the splitting and rejoining of DNA and when they stopped functioning, she did too.


I can't imagine a father feeling this way about his daughter. When you look at your sleeping daughter, you are confronted with a spiritual reality that you can't deny. From the moment she was born, you sensed the awesomeness of her life,the fact that there is something mysterious and transcendent about it, that she goes beyond you and your spouse. A man can banter with his friends and colleagues about whether God exists. But a father looks at his daughter and knows. Often I find parents (particularly fathers) shy away from discussing spiritual issues with their daughters. Talking about faith is akin to talking about sex. We feel paralyzed. We choke. We don't know where to start. Or perhaps we're afraid because we don't have all the answers. Perhaps we struggle with faith. That's fine. You don't have to provide all the answers, and you can keep it simple.


Kids always want to know about God. Their questions are intuitive. If you don't give guidance to your daughter, she'll come up with answers of her own-which means your authority will be replaced by someone else's. This is how cults are formed. You wouldn't ask your daughter to cook coq au vin for dinner without giving her a recipe. And God is more important than dinner. Whether you're a Christian, a Jew, or a Hindu, when your daughter asks about God, you need to give her something to work with. Your daughter wants to hear something from you. And for most parents, that means imparting your own faith in God, which you learned, if nowhere else, while you were watching your baby daughter sleep.


Wednesday, May 28, 2008

I just finished a great book...



One of the oldest, but still THE BEST! For more than seventy years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this book has carried thousands of now famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.

Dale Carnegie does a fantastic job of pointing out that the only true way to have any type of influence in life is to be a leader, and that in being a leader, one must often times change the attitudes and behavior of those around him.




He states nine principles in which the leader can bring people to his way of thinking and in doing so can accomplish any task.

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticising the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the SLIGHTEST improvement and praise EVERY improvement.
- "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement.
- "Make the fault seem easy to overcome."
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.


These nine principles are simple to understand and yet are incredibly profound. When applied to their daily lives and habits in dealing with people, the leader will find great changes in the levels of influence he is able to attain.


Enjoy!


God Bless,
Jason Jasper

Friday, April 25, 2008

I just finished a great book...

Dr. Gary Chapman does a great job of describing what he calls the "Five Love Languages."

The languages are:
  • - Quality Time
  • - Words of Affirmation
  • - Giving of Gifts
  • - Acts of Service
  • - Physical Touch

    He explains that each person speaks one of these languages and gives love in this area. This is also the language in which they most desire to recieve love.

    Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many-splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. More often than not, the giver and the receiver each express love in different ways. That can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce.

    Dr. Chapman identifies these five basic love languages and then guides couples toward a better understanding of how each of them uses these love languages.

    Dr. Chapman claims that if you learn to speak and understand your spouse's love language, in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return.

    The Beautiful Mrs. Jasper and I have since taken the test and discovered our individual love languages. I see great things in our future... now that I somewhat understand what she wants/needs. :o) The book is a huge help with knowing what specific areas you can show your spouse love that will greatly impact your relationship.

    Read this book! Skillful communication is within your grasp!
  • Thursday, April 17, 2008

    I just finished a great book...

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    Brian Tracy does an excellent job of showing the reader how to take proven, time management techniques and apply them to your daily life in such a way that will enable you to outperform even the most "busy" worker. Using these techniques will even show you how to free up time for the things in your life that matter the most (and just a hint for those of you who were wondering... it isn't WORK!)

    An excellent book, and until I have a clever rating system.... it gets "4 FROGS UP!"